My Many Lives
This isn’t that bio. The blow by blow of arduous and distinguished training that baits you down a perfectly fudged path of past distinction and prosperity. Is that attractive? It’s not who you’d be emailing with, talking to, meeting with, or working with. It’s not honest.
I’m shit canning it all. The fear, people pleasing, any desperation to be liked, and replacing it with open candor.
‘Die having experienced as many things as you can.’ My dad said that to me when I was angry and young. Even a pissed off teen made sense of it. It’s handed down clarity, here and there, over years. Today it makes more sense than ever and become a principle I try to live by.
I jotted down a list. Quickly, before the dogged editor in my head could step in. Ten life experiences. Ten, some important, some trivial, all a genuine sliver of who I am. In the order my brain presented them…
1. Setting foot in every state, eleven countries, and five continents.
2. Twenty-five years of marriage.
3. Dumb-luck plugging me into photography, changing my life forever.
4. My family moving into an RV when I was eight.
5. Taking my first walk the day Neil Armstrong said, ‘One small step for mankind…’
6. Punk Rock and The Bones Brigade saving me.
7. At age twenty-two, finally saying I wasn’t a virgin, and not lying.
8. Blowing up a country club pool with ‘things curated’ from chemistry class.
9. At the first snowboard camp ever, meeting the love of my life.
10. Pissing off my parents when I chose the military instead of college.
Did that pull back the curtain to show you enough of the real me? Maybe a regular CV is still the way to go?
It’s okay. If you’re still reading I figure it’s a win. Most, if they read any, won’t read past the list. It’s just statistically the truth. It’s why I’m going to wrap it up, and why the meat of all this is in the first few paragraphs.
‘If I could do it all again I wouldn’t change a thing.’ Really? Not one single thing? People who say this about their past clearly haven’t thought it through. If I could do it over, no way would I do it the same, but I’m happy I did it.
Solely on mental inventory, roughly 83 out of a possible 100 percent of my current life experiences are in the + column. If I died right now. I’m grateful. I think that’s not bad. If for some reason, I had to leave the building today, in the + column? That’s how it should be. What about you?
You can’t figure it out. You live it.
Girl Skateboards / Crailtap
The Quiet Life
Rock the Vote
The Jimmy Fund
Learning Disabilities Assoc. of America
Seattle Gay & Lesbian Intl Film Festival
Drag City Records